Top tips for working with toddlers

Building Trust, Joy, and Connection

Working with toddlers in a church or community setting is a privilege that calls for warmth, patience, and creativity. These little ones are full of curiosity and emotion, and the way we engage with them can shape their early experiences of faith and belonging.

Start with a smile. It’s one of the simplest and most powerful ways to help a child feel safe and welcome. A genuine smile can ease anxiety and open the door to connection.

Boundaries are important too. Toddlers thrive with structure and clear expectations, but these can be communicated positively. Reinforce good behaviour with affirming language like, “I really like it when you’re kind to your friend,” and gently address challenges with empathy: “When you’re unkind to James, it makes me feel sad.”

When speaking to a toddler, always come down to their eye level. A tall adult towering above can feel intimidating, but crouching down shows respect and helps build trust. Using the child’s name at the start of a sentence helps capture their attention. For example, “Emily, what animal is this going into the ark? makes it personal and inviting.

Ask open-ended questions. Instead of questions which result in a yes/no answer, use “why,” “how,” “where,” and “what” to spark imagination and conversation. Toddlers may take a little longer to process and respond, so give them time. Listening patiently not only shows respect but can also reveal deeper needs or feelings.

Visual engagement is key. Whether you’re telling a story or leading an activity, use props, pictures, and movement. Invite children to be part of the story, it brings it to life and helps them feel involved. Above all, have fun. If you’re enjoying yourself, toddlers will sense it and respond with joy. Laugh with them, enter their world, and celebrate the wonder they bring.